Is it appropriate to send a sympathy letter six months or even one year after a death? There is no statute of limitations when it comes to condolences, but how late is too late? One widow shares, “It's never too late. It's not as if we finish grieving and ‘forget’ that our loved one died; it's always in our mind and heart. If you word a late condolence note with something like, ‘I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking about Jonathan and remembering him with love, as I know you are,’ your sentiments will be appreciated.”

Whether you just learned of a death or procrastinated for months, don’t be afraid to reach out. The bereaved will be grieving for a long time and your thoughtfulness and care will help in the healing process.

Here’s an example:

Dear Rebecca, 

I was so saddened to hear of Stephen’s death and apologize for taking so long to get in touch. I’ve been thinking of you both, remembering the wonderful holidays we shared when we lived on Elm Street. How lucky we were to have you as neighbors. My thoughts of you and Stephen are full of warmth. I’m so glad we had many opportunities to share those early years of marriage. It was a special time and we were blessed to have the two of you in our lives.

I’m remembering Stephen with deep affection. Though we may not have been in touch often in the last few years, you were always in our hearts.

Warmest regards,
Liz and Bill